Urinary Incontinence the Ultimate Embarrassment

When I was flying across the country for the first time in a wheelchair I wasn’t able to get up to walk through security. So, there was a personal TSA (Transportation Security Agency) agent to perform a full pat search.

Of course the agent was a woman and very professional. She outlined everything she was going to touch before she did so. I stretched out my arms as she instructed and she patted them entirely. I leaned forward at her request and she felt my back. When it was time to do the front, she showed me how she’d use the back of her had to scoop around my breasts. After another explanation she patted my front pockets.

I had a Poise incontinence pad in my front pocket. She felt the large soft object and asked suspiciously, “What is that?” “It’s a Poise pad,” I said, “it’s my embarrassment.” “No”, she smiled, “without it, you’d have embarrassment.”

For me, incontinence is the most embarrassing symptom of MS. I have tried drugs and visited physical therapists who specialize in incontinence. I have used stimulation therapy and worked many hours doing the kegel exercises.

When my friend, Jill found out that I wear Depends, she was shocked. Her father has the same problem, she told me, “…he never leaves home because of it.” Jill had no idea that I was suffering with such an affliction because I’m active in the community and there isn’t a trace.

Out of respect for your privacy, I’m not going to ask for your experiences. 🙂 But you can buy incontinence products here, not just the women’s S/M, but Depends for men and women of all sizes and other incontinence supplies: Buy incontinence products here.


About our Co-Founder: With a bachelors in Social Work, Linda is 53 years old, happily married with eight children and 17 grandchildren. Diagnosed with MS in 1995 and now having accepted and truly embraced her new reality, Linda has created MSrelief.com. She is dedicated to proving that joy can be chosen while living with Multiple Sclerosis. Linda specializes in helping others, especially those with MS attain the lifestyle, independence and happiness amid living with MS.


  1. Linda,
    It is not embarrassing for me to state that I have the same issues you have. I also travel with pads when I’m going on a flight, or sometimes even for shopping trips. It all depends on the day. There are so many fluctuations with MS, it is sometimes difficult to gauge what the proper response is. The WORST way to handle things like incontinence is to stay at home. There is way too much to enjoy in the outside world!

    • Darlene~
      You are so right about there being way too much to enjoy!!! I’m glad that you’re not embarrassed! I knew that about you and it gave me courage to write this post!!!

  2. Im in junior high. im a girl. i have incontinence. i pee only when i laugh. and its only around certain people, like hilarious people. i dont know how to help myself. everytime i have a sleepover, i have to put like 10 pads on cause i have severe stress incontinence, i think. screw my life. it ruins my whole day. it happens EVERYWHERE. school, dance, babysitting, friend’s houses. its the most embarassing thing i could ever think of. at school, when it happens, i can’t make it to the bathroom. and i always walk weird when it happens, i dont ever want anyone to see! i want to shoot myself in those terrible moments. i try to walk sideways, backwards, anyway when no one can see my wet spot behind me. i tell myself to stop and i cant. its like impossible or something. i have to sit on my leg to stop it. or else niagra falls spills out. 🙁 you can laugh, its okay. i dont care anymore. i tried everything. pads, kegal exercises, day after day. and it was hard telling people too. its like oh, yeah, hurdur i piss myself and i cant stop. then i look at 2 year olds that can hold it. but i cant. fhaksjfhksdhfksdfhksdjhfkj f*** my life i hate it

    • Hey No Thanks!
      I honestly don’t know if you’re serious. My kids might have played jokes on people like this if blogging was in back then! If you’re telling the truth, I’m sorry! Incontinence truly is the ultimate embarrassment! As I began reading, I thought I was going to tell you to do kegles but when you said you already have tried them, I don’t know! Maybe emptying your bladder more frequently, before each class or something. Slow down on the soda, it’is a diuretic – it makes you pee more. Have you seen your doctor about this? That’s the only suggestion I have for you! I really am sorry!

  3. Hi Linda,
    I know incontinence is an embarrassing situation and hurts the social life of a person badly. Both men and women can suffer from the symptoms of incontinence.
    But a person should not hesitate to consult a physician. I will advice specially @No thanks to increase fiber intake in her diet and start doing some exercises that helps in strengthening your spinal cord.

    • Arvind,
      Thank you very much for taking the time to share your knowledge and wisdom! You are so right, I need to get some posts up here to teach exactly what you’re saying!

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