My Duet Transport Chair and Rollator helps me be a little more independent, except when it doesn’t!
Just as Nicole Lemelle said in her February post for the MS society, one of the hardest parts of living with Multiple Sclerosis or any chronic condition for that matter, is accepting the need to be dependent.
Like Nicole, I have an awesome husband who has accepted the responsibility of taking me on as his ‘service project’ (I hate that, like so many people with MS, I’m used to being the one giving the service). I am eternally grateful that he’s willing, yet it is a difficult personal growth opportunity; that of learning patience!
Patience was never one of my virtues.
I think that Nicole is a much more patient person, but I know she has her moments! Just like she talked about in her post; when her husband graciously found her necklace then after handing it to her walked out, not realizing that she would most likely need some assistance putting it on!
I love having the Drive Duet Rolator because I can walk as far as I have the strength then when I’m tired I can sit down and get pushed around. When it comes to my marriage, I am not the only impatient person, and sometimes a motorized wheelchair is even better than a rolator!
As in any relationship, communication is the key~ again the caregiver/care provider connection just accentuates the importance.
When my husband and I were going to a surprise party the other night, we had to stop at the store to pick up a gift. Fred Meyer was on the way and they have electric wheelchairs so I knew I’d be able to get around to choose the gift at my own speed. We all know that most men don’t like to shop. In this way my husband is like most men.
I wish I would have told him while we were on the way that I wanted him to run in and grab a scooter, but I didn’t.
As soon as he got out of the car he was getting my Rolator out of the trunk. I tried to stop him saying just to grab me a scooter but he pressed on telling me this would be faster, another way he is like most men, when he gets something on his mind, it can’t be changed.
As soon as I got my feet up on the foot rest he belted me into the store only slowing down for the automatic door to open. He whipped me around the store so quickly I couldn’t even think! How was I to choose a nice gift that Trina would like?
I haven’t spent much time in this Fred Meyer so I didn’t know on which side I would find a suitable birthday gift. We blazed to the left where I saw the cards and wrapping paper then we moved in a flurry from one side of the store to the other looking for a row that might have a gift. When we flew past the produce section I told him (of course he couldn’t hear me because I was facing forward ) I needed some greens for my smoothies. As we rushed by the Almond Butter Machine, I asked him to stop, again he didn’t hear me. Of course in the blur I didn’t see any aisle that had a gift so we swung around to the beginning.
I knew that was the wrapping paper section so I practically shouted STOP! I decided first to choose the gift bag thinking there must be something in this area suitable for a gift.
Somehow I was able to choose a cute pair of house socks, foot scrub and lotion wrapped in a darling birthday bag that I wouldn’t be embarrassed to give. Then my loving, care-providing husband took me back to the produce section and the almond butter machine.
I know he was doing a service, even taking me to dinner at Evangelo’s with our friends was a stretch because of his time constraints. How could I complain?
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