When I was laid up in bed for a few years because of MS, I came to grips with death. I had already spent the previous 15 years getting close with God and I worked on making myself a better person.
Living with this chronic illness makes death seem more real. When we are prepared to die, we can live more in peace!
Just as Tim McGraw says in his song, Live Like You were Dying; we need to become a friend that most friends would like to have, love deeply and speak kindly to others and to ourselves, give forgiveness; let go of negative emotions and make way for positive feelings of kindness, concern and peace.When we figure out what we can do to serve others no matter our circumstances, find our purpose, we are closer to living a happy life.
I’m doing these things, yet I recognize I need to make decisions and take care of other tasks to bring peace for those I leave behind.
- I will write my living will. Legacy Writer offers a free ‘living will’ form that we can simply fill out and have notarized
- I have already started a ‘family heirlooms give-away list’ for my kids. Toni, my oldest wanted her Great Grandma’s baby-grand piano. It worked out perfectly, when she was ready to take it I was ready to give it away! All of our family treasures are seriously junk, even the Antiques Road Show couldn’t find value.
- I know of a company with experts in finding Term Life Insurance for people with MS if you’re interested.
- I will talk more with our children so they can learn that death can be a positive experience.
- I will give advanced directives one of which is the donation of my body to medical research. Donating to science is a final gift we can give to total strangers. The organization or hospital will pay all expenses, including picking up my body. The expensive burial costs for my family will be avoided. I’m sure having MS, will make my body valuable for MS research. Donating my body to research is a final way I can give something back for my time here on earth.
I was having a particularly MSee evening yesterday and I wasn’t able to get to my computer. I almost started to focus with fear on my unknown future. Instead I said out loud to God, “I know I’ll be able to do everything that You want me to do, so what is it for now?” Here is the 500 word post that was my purpose for today.
We all know we’re going to die. Is there such a thing as a good death? Being prepared, being in control, dying in a place of choice, having pain appropriately managed and being supported by people who love me is a good way!
If you Google “Nobody wants to talk about dying” you’ll be given more reading material than you’ll have time to read.