Positive Attitude with Multiple Sclerosis

Keep your chin up! Develop a positive attitude and you’ll be closer to finding joy living with MS.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross is famous for her understanding of grief. She identified 5 stages:

1. DENIAL
At the beginning you were shocked and could hardly believe what the doctor just told you. Life with a chronic illness is something you never imagined. You may have started a frantic search for answers. In today’s world, we search the internet to find out more about our particular illness.

You have to be really careful not believing everything you read on the internet.

When I was told by the neurologist I had MS, I didn’t believe it. My mom, a much more rational person, quickly got on the internet and learned what MS is. Of course she didn’t believe it all hook line and skinner, knowing that just because it’s written doesn’t make it true. It was a mistake that I didn’t pay attention to my first symptoms.

I knew about the five stages of grief . We must put the knowledge of this disease in the back of our mind. Always remembering it’s there so we take care of ourselves, not in the front to spend all our energy and focus on the disease. I took Elizabeth’s advice and mourned the loss of life as I had expected, then began to identify my new reality.

2. ANGER
Sometimes you get very angry at life for what is happening. You get angry with everyone, family and friends, because they don’t understand what you are going through.

Getting angry is normal under these circumstances. Nobody can blame you and don’t blame yourself. Understand that it’s part of the process you are going through and put your mind to work on getting pass it.

3. BARGINING
You will start negotiating, bargain, with God to make this illness disappear in exchange for all kinds of promises. You might feel you are being punished for something you did before in your life.

4. DEPRESSION
This is something that everyone new to having a chronic illness will go through. A feeling of hopelessness about the situation grows inside and you start wondering how you are going to spend the rest of your life this way.

Most people – you too – managed to get beyond this point without having suicidal thoughts but since you or whoever is going through this problem is not going to want to talk about it, your family, especially your immediate family, should alert your doctor if they suspect that depression is worsening. Your doctor can prescribed an anti-depressant to help during this period.

6. ACCEPTANCE
This is the light at the end of a very dark and frightful tunnel. You realize that life is what it is. You finally move into the state that allows you to realize that you have to live with the illness and start looking for ways to improve your life.

I found my purpose in my circumstance and I honestly have been able to put MS in the back of my mind, not in the front.

Building a strong positive attitude towards your new reality is the foundation you are going to stand on.

Tell me in the comments below, where you are in the grief cycle. Have you found your purpose in this nonsense of MS? Have you embraced your new reality?

Linda

About our Co-Founder: With a bachelors in Social Work, Linda is 53 years old, happily married with eight children and 17 grandchildren. Diagnosed with MS in 1995 and now having accepted and truly embraced her new reality, Linda has created MSrelief.com. She is dedicated to proving that joy can be chosen while living with Multiple Sclerosis. Linda specializes in helping others, especially those with MS attain the lifestyle, independence and happiness amid living with MS.

10 Comments:

  1. I would hope that I gone through all the stages that you listed so well here since I have dealt with MS a Long time….we keep going through different stages as life goes by??

    • Kim,
      I’ve found the same thing, it’s like God says, “You’re doing a good job Linda, now what about this…?” Always something more, never a dull moment!
      Linda

  2. Its really so painful situation. And to bear variation of mood changes and behavior are so much unbearable. I have passed through MS and its also changed as per our age increases.

    • I’d love to know your name! I agree, mourning the loss of life as we expected is a painful experience. Just as we think we’ve mourned all the loss, something appears and it sets us off to cry again!
      Linda

  3. In this kind of life changing event, acceptance and optimism are the two best things you can do. If it will happen, it will really happen no matter what. There’s nothing you can do about it. When it happens, it is best that you should learn to accept it though it is hard and think positively in order to improve your condition – emotional and physical.

  4. When an unexpected medical condition comes into your life, everything will change. The things you love to do the most, you can no longer do them. Your source of happiness, it’s hard to find. It’s not that easy to accept that you are suffering from a life changing medical condition and that your life is not that perfect anymore. But there’s nothing you can do, but only to accept it and live your life to the fullest with this challenge.

    • Cara,
      When I turned 35 I was going through what most older people go through, I call it an ‘old age crisis’. By the time I turned 40 I told my husband and friends not to bother with the pranks of adult diapers and black balloons, I was already there!
      Linda

  5. What’s up, I read your blogs regularly. Your humoristic style is witty, keep up the good work!

  6. G’Day! Multiplesclerosisrelief,
    Maybe a little off topic, however, What variety of phrase that you use everyday will have a impact on the type of contemplating and attitude that you will have. If you frequently use good words and you at all times give words of encouragement to buyers, you will not only alteration by yourself to have constructive perspective, the man or woman that you speak to will be impact very.
    Great Job!

    • Alberta,
      That is not off topic at all! Attitude is EVERYTHING! I doesn’t matter if it is the difficulty of life with MS or simply driving through town!
      Linda

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